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That project on your desktop isn’t just waiting for more time or better tools.

It’s waiting for something deeper.

It’s waiting for you to stop carrying the weight of creating alone.

If you’ve been scrolling past polished success stories while your own work feels messy and uncertain, you’re not just procrastinating. You’re feeling the gap between what creative life actually looks like and what we’ve been taught it should look like.

We’re shown the highlight reels—book deals, course launches, packed workshops—but not the false starts, abandoned drafts, or late-night doubts. It creates a dangerous illusion that everyone else has figured out the formula and you’re the only one stuck.

But what if the real issue isn’t your productivity system? What if it’s the isolation?

This week, we’re exploring what happens when you stop trying to go it alone and begin building the kind of creative community that meets you where you are, not where you pretend to be.

From Isolation to Recognition

When you’re in a creative rut, hearing “You’re not alone” often feels like a dismissal.

What actually helps is something more vulnerable: “I recognize.”

• I recognize, because I went through something similar.
• I recognize, because we are working towards something similar.
• I recognize, the confusion and anxiety and isolation that comes when trying to create meaningful work that aligns with your curiosity and values.

This kind of empathetic recognition is vital for authentic connection. It is not a pretense for advice. The last thing you want to say or hear is “I recognize your pain, you should try time blocking your creative work.”

Advice shuts conversations down. Instead, focus on experience.

I recognize your frustration because I went through it as well:

• When I started my fifth newsletter, and it failed like the other four.
• When I spent six months designing a fantastic course that no one signed up for.
• When I sent my work to 10 galleries and didn’t even get a formal rejection from any of them.

These shared experiences transform the blame and shame of “What am I doing wrong?” into recognition that you’re part of a larger, very human pattern. Your frustrations and perceived failures get reframed as part of shared creative experience.

This witnessing and recognizing becomes a practice—one that starts with small, quiet actions that build genuine connection.

You can start small, with quiet but powerful actions.

Try one of these this week:

• Connect with a creative peer: Not to pitch or ask for help. To ask what they are working on.
• Offer your experience instead of advice: The next time you’re tempted to tell someone how they “should” do something, pause. Then share a relevant experience you had that relates to what they’re struggling with. It doesn’t have to solve anything.
• Join one conversation where someone shares a struggle, not just a success. Notice how it feels different from typical networking. Are people asking genuine questions, or are they just chasing wins?

Each of these moves shifts you from creative consumer to creative citizen—someone who contributes to the community they want to be part of.

These aren’t grand gestures. They’re small acts of creative courage that slowly build the connections you’re actually looking for.

You Don’t Have to Create Alone

Creative work will always come with friction, resistance, learning from failure, and navigating the unknown.

But when you’re connected to others who recognize this, it stops being a signal that you’re broken or “doing it wrong.” Instead, it becomes a sign you’re on the right path with others.

I’d love to hear: What’s one moment when you felt truly seen by another creative? Or if you’re still looking, what’s the most significant barrier to finding your creative community?

I may recognize what you’re navigating, and if I don’t, I may know someone who will. Hit reply and share your story. I read and respond to every note.

See you next week,

Jeff

P.S.

When I was six, I took piano lessons, and one of the most useful things I learned was that when you are performing during a recital and make a mistake, don’t stop. Don’t apologize and start over. Don’t scream and whine and yell at yourself, just keep playing.

The audience usually won’t notice or care that you made a mistake.

I bring this up because you may have noticed this Newsletter is a day later than usual.

I wouldn't usually bring it to your attention, but I felt it was an excellent opportunity to practice what I preach in the piece above. A chance to share an experience that, my guess is, some of you might recognize.

On Monday, I spent a few hours writing and editing the first article in the resource section below. I had initially scheduled an hour on Tuesday morning to review, edit, and then publish what I had written, but what was initially supposed to be an hour of work turned into four hours of rewriting.

When I finally got the piece published, I tried to work on the newsletter (which was already behind), and I was too tapped to move it forward. I could have just rushed to get it out, but I thought it was better to take my time, even if it meant being late.

Next time that piece of creative work you thought was almost ready turns into an entire redo, remember that others will absolutely recognize what happened and that you are not alone.

See you next Wednesday.

Flow Forward: Additional Resources for Creative Growth

​The Power of Creative Community​

You’re not failing, you’re just trying to do it alone. This piece explores how real creative community provides the recognition, support, and shared momentum that most productivity systems overlook.

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​Creative Communities Are REALLY Important​

Forget the lone genius myth. This piece reminds us that even the most independent artists need creative kinship. It’s a grounded, honest look at how real community shows up and how you can start finding yours, even if it’s been a while.

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​4 Reasons to Surround Yourself With Creative People ​

Creative work doesn’t have to be lonely. This video is a warm, energizing reminder that being around fellow creatives can fuel your growth, shift your perspective, and bring joy back into the process even when things feel messy.

Looking for a Creative Community?

​Antifragile Creative is a supportive, evolving community designed for people like you—creative minds who crave both freedom and the structure required to explore that freedom.

Instead of rigid rules or one-size-fits-all advice, we help you co-create practices that reflect your real needs, values, and creative rhythm. It’s a space where reflection, experimentation, and connection are part of the creative process, not distractions from it.

If you’re ready to stop doing it all alone, this is your invitation to join us.

Share the Flow

Know someone who’s been navigating the creative path alone?

Forward this issue to them. Invite them into a conversation about what real creative support looks like.

Sometimes, all it takes is a reminder that the messy middle is where the good work happens.

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